Jacky Leonard's blog

Archive entries for: Mar-2015

Getting Engaged?

Categories:  Business Coaching, Being on purpose, Life Balance and Wellbeing

How often are you fully engaged in what you’re doing?

In this hectic world, are you choosing to live at a break neck speed, rushing from one task to another, hardly pausing for breath?  Do you find it difficult to completely focus on the job at hand, or the person in front of you and be ‘in the present?’  Are you easily distracted by your phone, emails or thinking about the next task?  Are you just going through the motions with half an eye on the ball? 

If you’re living your life in an unconscious competent state you can get caught up in an endless routine of doing the things you’ve always done, in the way you’ve always done them, not really thinking about the reason, outcome or how you might improve the process.  The business and personal consequences range from the inconvenient to the disastrous.  Here’s my invitation to get off the treadmill…even if only for a few minutes and get interested.  I’ve trawled the web and my personal library to provide you with a variety of practical tools, tips and techniques.  My next few Blogs will focus on helping you get present and re-focus on yourself and others. 

So, where do you start?  My suggestion would be to begin with YOU.  After all, it’s your first area of expertise and something you can directly control.  Here are 7 ways to help you re-engage with yourself.

 

1.  Be on purpose

Do you know what you want, why you want it and how to get it?  I’ve coached a lot of people who know what they don’t want, however if you believe that you get what you focus on, a more effective approach is to know where you’re going.

Throughout recorded history, the most successful men and women have been those who’ve learnt to develop their natural goal-setting ability into a powerful skill for achievement. Goal setting is a natural function of the brain. Making a decision triggers a subconscious process that transforms the decision into an action.

Traditional goal setting techniques focus on left-brain words and endless repetition, Brian Mayne’s Goal Mapping uses imagery – the language of the subconscious.  Click the link below to learn more and access your free Goal Mapping tool.

https://www.goalmappingonline.com/?ref=%20jackyleonard%20

 

2.  Take responsibility

“It’s not my fault.”  “They made me do it.”  “He/she makes my life a misery.”  Ever heard (or said) these statements.  At best their disempowering.  They relinquish responsibility for your thoughts, feelings and behaviour.  So if not you…who exactly is responsible for these things?  Take control of them, or someone will take control of you!  Listen to your internal dialogue and retune it to a more positive, accountable and empowering channel.

 

3.  Practice Mindfulness

Mindfulnessis "the intentional, accepting and non-judgemental focus of one's attention on the emotions, thoughts and sensations occurring in the present moment"  Wikipedia

Here’s a link to get some tools to help you become more mindful about your disempowering habitual behaviour.

http://www.simplemindfulness.com/about-2/

 

4.  Meditate

Meditation is a fabulous tool to get you into the present and experience peace and a real sense of wellbeing.  I resisted it for years, finally took a couple of classes and WOW!  What a powerful activity to help you clear your mind of all the unhelpful chatter, relax and reconnect with yourself.  Now I know you’re a busy person so maybe taking a whole hour out is too much.  The good news is, you don’t need to.  Below is a link to a wonderful website where you can access free 1 minute meditations.  Surely you have just a minute?

http://www.just-a-minute.org/en/resource_centre/

 

5.  Be more active

Being an ex-physical training instructor, personal trainer and performance athlete, I could write a whole series of Blogs extoling the virtues of physical activity.  You’ll be pleased to know I won’t. The benefits are well documented and there are numerous activities you can do iincluding: cycling, dancing, exercise classes, swimming, walking, weight training, yoga etc.

If you haven’t done much since PE at school it is usually best to have a quick health check first.  Then decide what will be most fun, rewarding and interesting for you.  The link below takes you to the Change4Life be more active web pages.

http://www.nhs.uk/Change4Life/Pages/be-more-active.aspx

 

6.  Be interested

Are you still curious about life, the universe and everything?  The older I get, the more I realise how little I know.  Maybe, like me you had a series of bad experiences that stopped you asking questions of the curious kind.  The types of questions that can truly open up interesting conversations, challenge beliefs and expand minds.  Do you still look at things with interest, wonder and excitement, or have you become busy, cynical and blasé.  Perhaps adopting a child’s view of the world will give you a fresh perspective.  Click here to find out why.

http://poetryinmysoul.com/2013/03/12/through-the-eyes-of-a-child/

 

7.  Appreciate your life

There’s always something to be grateful for if you take a little time to look around you and reflect on what’s really important to you.  Research has indicated that people who practise gratitude on a daily basis are capable of being 25% happier. 

Here’s a link to Thank You, by Liggy Webb, a book about the benefits, opportunities and joy of being grateful.

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Thank-You-Liggy-Webb/dp/1908596511

 

So what are you waiting for?  You now have 7 ideas; 1-a-day for the next week.  Go on…get engaged!