Posted at 07:47:04 by Jacky Leonard
“I'm always doing things I can't do - that's how I get to do them” - Pablo Picasso
How about you?
Do you have a go at doing things you can't...or think you can't? Or are you content with limiting yourself by not even trying?
And what about the people you manage? Do you encourage them to try, learn and develop, even when they think they can't?
I see a lot of people at work, in sport and life, who have a heap of natural talent, but give up when the going gets tough and they are required to step up to the next challenge.
I was facilitating a session about taking a coaching approach to giving feedback with a group of managers a couple of weeks ago. The issue of rewarding effort as well as outcome came up. I believe you should acknowledge both. Unfortunately, too often I see people trying really hard, sometimes against the odds, yet their efforts go unrecognised. The result is, unless that person is particularly intrinsically motivated, they begin to reset their standards to the lowest common denominator and start to deliver less than they are capable.
I'm guessing you have friends, family and colleagues who are naturally supportive of you...and probably also your share of those who, even with the best intentions, feed your insecurities and put doubt in your mind. Spend more time with the former if you can.
You too, have the capacity to dash people's hopes and efforts, or support them during the times they need a sounding board, helping hand, or cheer leader. To pick them up, dust them off and encourage them to have another go. Remember to do the same for yourself too.
You'll come across a lot of people who'll take pleasure in judging you, putting you down and planting seeds of doubt. The only question you need to ask yourself is, "Do I really want to invest the time, energy and resources to achieving this?"
If the answer is "yes" go for it and don't let anyone stand in your way.
One of my personal heroes is the climber Alan Hinkes. A no nonsense, Yorkshire man, Alan set himself the audacious goal of climbing all 14, 8000 metre peaks. He is still the only Briton to have achieved this. He hung in there despite illness, injury, the death of climbing colleagues and personal setbacks. The epitome of pushing yourself to do something which you've not done before.
Remember nothing's impossible, except striking a match on a jelly!
“Being defeated is often temporary, giving up is what makes it permanent” - Marilyn Vos Savant